# Wedding Invitation Wording: The Complete Guide for Every Style and Scenario > Every scenario, solved. From the traditional host line to modern couples hosting themselves — with real wording examples for religious ceremonies, civil ceremonies, second weddings, divorced parents, same-sex couples, and more. *Published 2026-06-24 · By Vivian Cole* In short Wedding invitation wording follows a seven-part structure and a small set of enduring rules — 'honour of your presence' for religious ceremonies, 'pleasure of your company' for civil ones, no registry mention ever on the card. Every modern scenario from divorced parents to same-sex couples has a graceful traditional solution. Your wedding invitation is the first physical artifact your guests will hold — and it does far more work than simply conveying logistics. It signals the formality of the event, the style of the celebration, and the thoughtfulness with which you have considered your guests' experience. A letterpress card with traditional wording and a calligraphed outer envelope communicates something entirely different from a digital invitation, even if both convey the same time and place. The good news is that traditional wedding invitation wording is not especially complicated — it is a compact set of conventions with clear logic behind each rule. Master the structure, understand the handful of distinctions that matter most, and you will be able to handle any scenario with confidence. ## What Are the Seven Parts of a Traditional Wedding Invitation? The formal invitation card follows a seven-part structure that has remained remarkably stable for more than a century, because it efficiently conveys everything a guest needs to know in a graceful sequence: - **The Host Line** — names those hosting and funding the event - **The Request Line** — the phrase inviting guests ('honour of your presence' or 'pleasure of your company') - **The Couple's Names** — the names of the two people marrying - **The Date and Time** — written out fully on formal invitations - **The Ceremony Venue** — name, city, and state - **Reception Details** — 'Reception to follow' if same venue, or a separate reception card if different - **RSVP Information** — deadline and response method Most modern invitation suites add a **wedding website card** (widely considered standard in 2026) and an **accommodation card** for out-of-town guests. These are inserts, not additions to the main card. ## What Wording Should You Use? Real Examples for Every Scenario The examples below follow the [Emily Post Institute](https://emilypost.com/advice/samples-of-formal-wedding-invitation-wording) guidelines, the closest thing to a canonical etiquette authority in the United States. Wedding Invitation Wording: Examples by Host and Ceremony Type (2026) Scenario Request Phrase Sample Host Line Bride's parents hosting; religious ceremony request the honour of your presence Mr. and Mrs. Jonathan Reyes Both families hosting; secular ceremony request the pleasure of your company Mr. and Mrs. Jonathan Reyes / together with / Mr. and Mrs. George Thornton Couple hosting together; secular request the pleasure of your company Together with their families, [Name] and [Name] Divorced parents, bride's mother hosts; secular request the pleasure of your company Mrs. Linda Reyes / Mr. Jonathan Reyes (separate lines, no 'and') Same-sex couple, parents hosting; religious request the honour of your presence Mr. and Mrs. Jonathan Reyes / together with / Mr. and Mrs. Thomas Park Second wedding, couple hosting; secular request the pleasure of your company [Full Name] and [Full Name] (no parental host line) ### Example: Traditional Formal (Religious Ceremony, Bride's Parents Hosting) > Mr. and Mrs. Jonathan Reyes request the honour of your presence at the marriage of their daughter Eleanor Anne to James William Thornton son of Mr. and Mrs. George Thornton Saturday, the fourteenth of June two thousand and twenty-six at half past five in the afternoon St. Margaret's Church Charleston, South Carolina Reception to follow ### Example: Modern (Couple Hosting, Secular Ceremony) > Together with their families Eleanor Reyes and James Thornton request the pleasure of your company at their wedding celebration Saturday, the fourteenth of June, 2026 at five-thirty in the evening The Inn at Middleton Place Charleston, South Carolina Dinner and dancing to follow ## The Rules That Still Hold — and Why They Exist Etiquette rules survive because they have logic behind them. Understanding the reason makes following them feel natural rather than arbitrary. **No registry information on the invitation.** This is the most violated rule in contemporary wedding etiquette. Including registry information on the invitation — or on any printed insert in the suite — implies you are expecting a gift. Guests deserve to feel welcomed as guests, not as gift-bearers. The correct home for registry information is your wedding website, bridal shower invitations (where it is entirely appropriate), and word of mouth from close family when asked. Never the invitation. **Spell everything out on formal invitations.** No abbreviations (no St. for Street, no Sat. for Saturday), no numerals for date and time. This signals care and formality. Semi-formal and casual formats relax these conventions appropriately — the rule is about matching formality level, not arbitrary strictness. **Divorced parents are never connected with 'and.'** They appear on separate lines. This is both technically correct (they are separate households) and gracious (it does not force guests to mentally reconcile a once-dissolved relationship). **The dress code goes on the invitation — not only on the website.** A common modern mistake is to put dress code only on the wedding website, assuming guests will find it. List it clearly on the details card insert: 'Black Tie' or 'Garden Party Attire' or 'Cocktail Attire.' Guests who do not consult the website before packing will thank you. **Order 15–20% more invitations than your guest list.** Reprinting a short run costs significantly more per unit than including extra in the original order. Extras serve as keepsakes, accommodate errors in addressing, and cover last-minute additions and vendor copies. ## The Timing You Need to Know The standard timeline calls for invitations to be mailed 8–10 weeks before the wedding, with an RSVP deadline of 3–4 weeks before. For destination weddings, extend to 12–16 weeks for invitations and send save-the-dates 10–12 months out. Set your published RSVP deadline one week earlier than the date you actually need your final count — the inevitable late responders will use that buffer without catastrophe. Save-the-dates go out 6–8 months before a local wedding and 10–12 months before a destination or holiday weekend wedding. They do not need to match your invitation suite, but maintaining a consistent visual identity across both pieces creates a polished guest experience from first impression to wedding day. ## Sources 1. [Samples of Formal Wedding Invitation Wording](https://emilypost.com/advice/samples-of-formal-wedding-invitation-wording) 2. [Wedding Invitation Wording: Examples & Complete Guide](https://www.theknot.com/content/standard-wedding-invitation-wording-examples) 3. [Wedding Invitation Wording Examples & Guidelines](https://www.minted.com/wedding-ideas/wedding-invitation-wording) 4. 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