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Bridal Shower Themes for 2026: 10 Ideas Guests Will Love
From the bow-adorned coquette aesthetic to the lemon-bright Italian summer table, the bridal shower themes generating the most excitement in 2026 share one quality: they feel completely intentional. Here are ten themes that deliver on every front — décor, menu, and memory.
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The quick verdict
From bow-draped coquette tables to lemon-bright Italian terraces, the bridal shower themes generating the most excitement in 2026 share one quality: they feel completely intentional. Here are ten themes — with honest décor direction, menu suggestions, and real budget context.
- Best overall
- Italian Summer / Amalfi Coast — The most photogenic and crowd-pleasing theme of 2026 — lemon-and-terracotta styling reads beautifully in any light, the grazing-and-spritz menu has near-universal appeal, and fresh fruit and herb décor delivers high visual impact for far less than florals.
- Best value
- Brunch & Bubbly — The easiest format to execute beautifully on a modest budget — a mimosa bar and a balanced sweet-and-savory spread can be hosted at home for $300 to $1,000, and no guest is ever unhappy at 11 a.m. with good food and a glass of something sparkling.
- Best for Brides who want the shower to double as an experience guests remember
- Floral Atelier — Turning the event into a guided flower-arranging workshop resolves entertainment and favors at once, produces the strongest guest engagement of any format, and sends everyone home with something they made themselves — at a higher per-head cost worth it for the memory.
How we evaluated
Themes were selected based on 2026 search and Pinterest trend data, visual distinctiveness, achievability across a range of budgets, and suitability for the multigenerational bridal shower guest list. Each theme was evaluated for décor coherence, menu compatibility, and how well it can be personalized to reflect the bride's actual personality. Pricing tiers ($–$$$$) represent total event costs for 20–30 guests: $ = under $500, $$ = $500–$1,200, $$$ = $1,200–$2,500, $$$$ = $2,500+.
- Trend relevance for 2026. How strongly the theme is represented in 2026 bridal-shower search and Pinterest trend data, and whether it reads as current rather than dated.
- Visual distinctiveness. How recognizable and photogenic the theme is — whether it creates a coherent visual world rather than a generic color palette.
- Budget achievability. How well the theme can be executed across a range of budgets, from at-home DIY to a full-service venue, for a typical 20–30 guest count.
- Multigenerational fit. How comfortably the theme serves a mixed-age guest list, from the bridal party to grandmothers, which most showers must accommodate.
- Personalization potential. How easily the theme can be tailored to reflect the specific bride's personality rather than feeling borrowed from someone else's board.
Rating scale: Ratings are on a 1–5 scale in tenth-point increments.
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At a glance
| # | Name | Rating | Best for | Pricing |
|---|---|---|---|---|
| 1 | Coquette Bows ("She's Tying the Knot") | 4.6 | The most on-trend theme of 2026 — and when executed with restraint, one of the most genuinely charming | $500–$1,500 for 20–30 guests depending on venue and catering |
| 2 | Italian Summer / Amalfi Coast | 4.8 | Joyful, vibrant, and effortlessly elevated — the theme that photographs best in afternoon light | $600–$1,800 for 20–30 guests; lower cost if hosting at home with DIY catering |
| 3 | Cottagecore | 4.5 | Romantic, effortlessly beautiful, and the most budget-friendly theme that still photographs like a dream | $250–$1,000 for 20–25 guests; one of the most achievable themes at home without a large budget |
| 4 | Garden Party | 4.4 | The timeless classic — fresh, elegant, and the safest choice that never needs an apology | $500–$2,500 for 20–30 guests depending on venue and catering approach |
| 5 | Old Money / Pearls | 4.5 | Aspirational, refined, and quietly the most effortlessly elegant shower aesthetic in rotation | $800–$2,500+ for 20–30 guests; investment in quality rentals or borrowed pieces is essential |
| 6 | Brunch & Bubbly | 4.7 | The most reliably successful, easiest-to-execute, and most universally beloved shower format | $300–$1,000 at home; $35–$75 per person at a venue with a set menu |
| 7 | Farmer's Market ("Fresh Off the Market") | 4.6 | The most interactive, tactile, and conversation-generating shower theme of 2026 | $700–$2,000 for 20–30 guests; flower bar is the primary variable cost |
| 8 | Afternoon Tea | 4.4 | Quietly experiencing a renaissance in 2026 — the most multigenerational shower format that never goes out of style | $400–$1,500 for 20–30 guests; hotel tea rooms and specialty venues run $55–$90 per person |
| 9 | Disco & Diamonds | 4.3 | For the bride who wants her shower to double as a party — unambiguously glamorous and genuinely joyful | $700–$2,500+ for 20–30 guests; metallic décor and entertainment elements drive the higher end |
| 10 | Floral Atelier | 4.7 | The most experiential shower of 2026 — guests leave with something they made themselves | $1,200–$3,000+ for 20–25 guests; workshop fee is the dominant line item |
Coquette Bows ("She's Tying the Knot")
The most on-trend theme of 2026 — and when executed with restraint, one of the most genuinely charming
The coquette bow aesthetic arrived on bridal shower tables in 2024, dominated 2025, and shows absolutely no signs of retreating in 2026. What makes it enduringly popular is its visual simplicity: bows are an infinitely adaptable motif that reads differently depending on how you use them — a soft pink palette produces something delicate and romantic; a black-and-ivory palette delivers something sharper and more editorial. The theme's full name — "She's Tying the Knot" — is the kind of thematic pun that gives hosts an entire visual language to work with, from invitation wording to dessert styling. Bow-tied bud vases, ribbon-wrapped champagne flutes, oversized bow chair sashes, and bow-shaped cake toppers each contribute to a cohesive visual world without requiring expensive florals or complex décor. The menu pairs naturally with soft pink champagne cocktails, petit fours, and a tiered cake with a fondant bow detail. The color palette with the most longevity in photographs: soft blush and ivory with gold as an accent, or the more graphic black and ivory with ribbon as the only color. The single decision that separates a beautiful coquette shower from an overdone one: edit ruthlessly. Not every surface needs a bow. Choose three to four anchor moments — the cake, the chair sashes, the centerpiece bud vases — and leave breathing room.
Strengths
- Highly versatile — works in any venue from backyard to restaurant private room
- Visually cohesive without requiring expensive florals
- Beloved by all generations — charming without alienating older guests
Weaknesses
- Has become extremely common; requires distinctive execution to feel fresh rather than generic
- Best for
- The most on-trend theme of 2026 — and when executed with restraint, one of the most genuinely charming
- Pricing
- $500–$1,500 for 20–30 guests depending on venue and catering
Italian Summer / Amalfi Coast
Joyful, vibrant, and effortlessly elevated — the theme that photographs best in afternoon light
The Italian summer shower brings the energy of a warm Amalfi afternoon to wherever you are hosting — a backyard, a restaurant terrace, a sunlit home dining room. Its visual vocabulary is specific and immediately recognizable: lemons and citrus in abundance (fresh fruit as centerpiece anchors, lemon-printed linens, preserved citrus slices as charger accents), terracotta tones alongside crisp white and bright yellow, olive branches and wildflowers rather than cultivated florals, and rustic ceramic vessels rather than glass. The menu is where this theme really comes alive: a limoncello spritz station, a grazing spread of burrata, prosciutto, olives, and focaccia, fresh pasta as a lunch centerpiece, and lemon tarts or an olive oil cake as the dessert anchor. Aperol spritz in clear carafes makes a beautiful styling element that doubles as the bar. For invitations, look for designs featuring hand-painted Italian botanical motifs — Paperlust and Minted both offer options that set the tone perfectly. The Italian summer theme scales gracefully from intimate (eight guests in a garden) to larger gatherings (thirty guests at a restaurant private room), which is one reason it has become one of the most recommended themes among professional shower hosts in 2025–2026.
Strengths
- One of the most photogenic themes in any light — yellow and terracotta read beautifully
- Menu is naturally cohesive and crowd-pleasing with zero dietary conflicts for most guests
- Fresh fruit and herb styling is significantly less expensive than florals at comparable visual impact
Weaknesses
- Requires specific seasonal sourcing — lemons and artichokes are most affordable and beautiful in spring and early summer; late-fall execution requires supplementing with preserved/faux elements
- Best for
- Joyful, vibrant, and effortlessly elevated — the theme that photographs best in afternoon light
- Pricing
- $600–$1,800 for 20–30 guests; lower cost if hosting at home with DIY catering
Cottagecore
Romantic, effortlessly beautiful, and the most budget-friendly theme that still photographs like a dream
Cottagecore's enduring power lies in its fundamental authenticity: it is the only trend that looks better when things are slightly imperfect. Wildflowers arranged loosely in mismatched vintage vases, a linen tablecloth that is not ironed into submission, jam jars as vessels, herbs tucked between tea cups — this is an aesthetic that rewards effort rather than spending. The color palette is soft and natural: sage green, dusty lavender, cream, and the warm tawny of dried grasses. Vintage tableware sourced from estate sales, thrift stores, or borrowed from family members is not just acceptable — it is the point. A cottage-style brunch menu writes itself: scones with clotted cream and lemon curd, a seasonal quiche, fresh berries with whipped cream, a simple flower-shaped or wreath-shaped cake. Herb-infused lemonade or a wildflower honey tea station gives guests something to sip while they mingle. What distinguishes a genuinely beautiful cottagecore shower from a haphazard one is a color anchor: choose two or three specific tones and use them consistently across the linens, florals, and ceramics. "Cottagecore" as a visual language is romantic, not rustic — the distinction is subtle but meaningful in photographs.
Strengths
- Lowest-cost theme on this list when executed at home — much of the décor can be sourced or borrowed
- Multigenerational appeal — grandmothers and college friends are equally charmed
- Forgiving to execute — slight imperfections read as intentional rather than mistakes
Weaknesses
- Difficult to scale elegantly beyond 25–30 guests — the intimate, gathered aesthetic starts to read as underprepared at larger counts
- Best for
- Romantic, effortlessly beautiful, and the most budget-friendly theme that still photographs like a dream
- Pricing
- $250–$1,000 for 20–25 guests; one of the most achievable themes at home without a large budget
Garden Party
The timeless classic — fresh, elegant, and the safest choice that never needs an apology
The garden party shower has earned its perennial status because it works in every season, at every budget level, and for every bride. Fresh florals in soft colors, linen-draped tables, a gracious outdoor or sunlit indoor setting, and a menu built around elegant lightness — it is not flashy, which is exactly the point. The bride who chooses a garden party shower is saying something about her aesthetic: understated, considered, warm. The décor conversation starts with florals: peonies and garden roses in spring, dahlias and zinnias in summer, cosmos and ranunculus in early fall. Soft colors — blush, lavender, mint, ivory — read beautifully under afternoon light. Long tables with linen runners, low floral centerpieces in clear glass or ceramic vessels, and simple white china give the table polish without ostentation. Menu: cucumber sandwiches, a simple salad, warm quiche or frittata, a beautiful cake with buttercream florals. A sparkling water and lemonade station with fresh herbs and edible flowers gives guests a beautiful non-alcoholic option alongside champagne. The garden party is the shower theme that offends no one and delights everyone — which, in a multigenerational guest context, is not a small thing.
Strengths
- Works beautifully for every generation of guest, from grandmothers to bridesmaids
- Highly adaptable to any venue — backyard, restaurant, hotel garden, indoor atrium
- Scalable from 15 to 50 guests without losing coherence
Weaknesses
- Risk of feeling generic unless the host adds one distinctive personal touch that anchors the bride's specific personality
- Best for
- The timeless classic — fresh, elegant, and the safest choice that never needs an apology
- Pricing
- $500–$2,500 for 20–30 guests depending on venue and catering approach
Old Money / Pearls
Aspirational, refined, and quietly the most effortlessly elegant shower aesthetic in rotation
The "old money" aesthetic arrived in mainstream wedding culture in 2024 and has settled into a specific bridal shower register that feels genuinely elevated without being ostentatious. Ivory, champagne, and cream are the dominant palette; pearls — as jewelry, as beading on invitations, as the single accent motif on the cake — are the defining decorative detail. The aesthetic borrows from the language of classic American East Coast preppy elegance: equestrian prints, rattan accents, wicker chargers, aged gold rather than bright metallic, linen that is textured rather than smooth. Classical florals — white roses, stephanotis, lily of the valley, hydrangea — sit naturally within the palette. The menu should match the register: chilled shrimp cocktail, a proper chicken salad, croissants with butter and honey, a dressed green salad with a champagne vinaigrette, and a white cake with ivory fondant and a single pearl border. Invitations on thick cream stock with engraved or letterpress printing set the tone perfectly. What distinguishes old money as a theme from simply beige: the inclusion of one or two quality anchor pieces — a beautiful silver serving piece, a borrowed set of real china — that give the table genuine heirloom texture.
Strengths
- Photographs beautifully in neutral light — the ivory palette is the most flattering for group photographs
- Timeless — photographs will not look dated in ten years
- Works exceptionally well for the formal, multigenerational shower where family members expect a sense of occasion
Weaknesses
- Requires higher investment in linens, china, and florals to achieve the aspirational register — a budget execution can read as simply underfurnished rather than elegantly restrained
- Best for
- Aspirational, refined, and quietly the most effortlessly elegant shower aesthetic in rotation
- Pricing
- $800–$2,500+ for 20–30 guests; investment in quality rentals or borrowed pieces is essential
Brunch & Bubbly
The most reliably successful, easiest-to-execute, and most universally beloved shower format
Brunch and bubbly is not merely a theme — it is a philosophy of hospitality. It says: we are celebrating this bride with good food, real champagne, and the kind of morning where no one needs to be anywhere else. A mimosa bar with three to four juice options (classic orange, grapefruit, blood orange, pomegranate), a spread that balances sweet (mini waffles, fruit skewers, pastries) with savory (a full egg dish, smoked salmon, a cheese and charcuterie board), and a beautiful cake as the centerpiece of the table. The décor is deliberately relaxed: fresh flowers in clear glass, a few candles, linen napkins, and champagne flutes as the primary visual prop. This is the shower format where the warmth of the hosting matters more than the perfection of the styling — guests who are well fed and comfortably seated by 11 a.m. with a glass of something sparkling are already happy before the first game begins. Budget guidance: a brunch shower for 25 guests can be hosted beautifully at home for $400 to $800 in food, flowers, and rentals. Restaurant private rooms with a set brunch menu run $35 to $75 per person, making it the most accessible mid-range format available.
Strengths
- Most budget-friendly shower format — brunch food is inherently less expensive than a dinner-style reception
- Works equally well at home or in a venue
- No guest is ever unhappy at 11 a.m. with good food and a mimosa
Weaknesses
- Can feel underwhelming if the host under-invests in one anchor visual element — a beautiful cake or striking floral arrangement elevates the otherwise casual setting
- Best for
- The most reliably successful, easiest-to-execute, and most universally beloved shower format
- Pricing
- $300–$1,000 at home; $35–$75 per person at a venue with a set menu
Farmer's Market ("Fresh Off the Market")
The most interactive, tactile, and conversation-generating shower theme of 2026
The farmer's market bridal shower — sometimes named "Fresh Off the Market" as a play on the phrase — is one of the fastest-emerging themes in 2026 shower planning for a specific reason: it works as both entertainment and décor simultaneously. The central feature is a flower stand or flower bar where guests select stems and arrange small bouquets to take home as their favor — a service that has become increasingly available through local florists and specialty event companies at $25 to $45 per guest for a thirty-minute self-guided arrangement station. Beyond the flower bar, the aesthetic pulls from market imagery: woven baskets of seasonal produce, a grazing spread built from locally sourced cheese, honey, jam, charcuterie, and bread, a fresh lemonade stand, and kraft paper elements throughout the stationery and menu cards. The color palette is seasonal and natural: whatever is at peak at the market that week. This theme is uniquely adaptable to outdoor spaces — a backyard, a garden, or a venue with an outdoor component — and translates particularly well to summer and early fall. It also solves the practical game-and-activity question naturally: the flower arrangement station functions as both entertainment and take-home favor, reducing the need for separate prize purchases.
Strengths
- The flower bar activity doubles as décor, entertainment, and take-home favor — eliminating three separate planning elements
- Highly Instagram-worthy — the market aesthetic reads as effortless while requiring genuine curation
- Communal and interactive — breaks the ice between guests who do not know each other
Weaknesses
- Flower bar requires advance sourcing from a florist or specialty vendor — not self-executable without a professional partner or significant floral knowledge
- Best for
- The most interactive, tactile, and conversation-generating shower theme of 2026
- Pricing
- $700–$2,000 for 20–30 guests; flower bar is the primary variable cost
Afternoon Tea
Quietly experiencing a renaissance in 2026 — the most multigenerational shower format that never goes out of style
The afternoon tea shower has enjoyed a genuine 2025–2026 revival, partly driven by the broader "elevated quiet luxury" aesthetic in wedding culture and partly by a desire for shower formats that grandmother and college roommate can both genuinely enjoy. The structure is elegant and inherently paced: tiered trays with finger sandwiches, miniature scones with clotted cream and preserves, petite pastries and cakes, a pot of properly brewed tea (with caffeine alternatives clearly noted), and champagne or an elderflower spritz for those who prefer a glass over a cup. China is the single most important visual element — borrowed sets from family members, rented from a local event company, or sourced from an estate sale give the table immediate authenticity that paper plates and plastic cups cannot achieve at any price. Florals should be delicate: sweet peas, ranunculus, lily of the valley, and garden roses in soft colors. The most distinctive design direction for 2026: the royalcore or regency-inflected tea party, using jewel-tone accents (sapphire blue, emerald green) alongside ivory and gold, inspired in part by the continued cultural enthusiasm for period-drama aesthetics.
Strengths
- Most naturally multigenerational shower format — grandmothers are as comfortable as the bridal party
- Inherently paced and relaxed — no rushing, no complicated logistics
- Beautiful without requiring the large floral budget of a full garden party
Weaknesses
- Requires genuine china and proper teaware to achieve the right register — without these elements it reads as slightly incomplete
- Best for
- Quietly experiencing a renaissance in 2026 — the most multigenerational shower format that never goes out of style
- Pricing
- $400–$1,500 for 20–30 guests; hotel tea rooms and specialty venues run $55–$90 per person
Disco & Diamonds
For the bride who wants her shower to double as a party — unambiguously glamorous and genuinely joyful
The disco and diamonds shower is not for every bride — and that is precisely the point. It is the theme that exists for the extroverted, maximalist woman who finds the idea of a quiet tea party mildly claustrophobic and whose idea of an ideal afternoon involves a mirror ball, a perfectly mixed playlist, and the kind of group dancing that produces memories rather than photographs. The visual vocabulary is built from metallic reflection: disco ball centerpieces, sequined table runners, metallic gold and silver balloons, mirror-finish charger plates, and crystal accents on every surface that can support them. The palette is intentionally bold — champagne gold, deep purple, or warm silver — with dramatic black as a grounding base. A signature cocktail (a classic espresso martini or a properly made cosmopolitan) anchors the bar. The menu should match the register: passed hors d'oeuvres rather than a seated meal, a dessert table with metallic-dusted macarons and a mirrored cake, and a late-afternoon start time that allows the party to naturally transition into an evening energy. The single most important element: the music. A curated playlist beginning with Donna Summer or Gloria Gaynor and working through the decades sets everything else in motion.
Strengths
- Produces the most genuinely joyful, high-energy shower experience — guests dance
- Highly distinctive — immediately recognizable in photographs and in memory
- Works beautifully in an evening format that differentiates it from daytime showers
Weaknesses
- Not right for a mixed-age guest list where older family members may be uncomfortable with the party format — assess the bride's actual grandmother's reaction before committing
- Best for
- For the bride who wants her shower to double as a party — unambiguously glamorous and genuinely joyful
- Pricing
- $700–$2,500+ for 20–30 guests; metallic décor and entertainment elements drive the higher end
Floral Atelier
The most experiential shower of 2026 — guests leave with something they made themselves
The floral atelier shower turns the entire event into a flower-arranging workshop, transforming guests from observers into participants. A local florist or floral design company sets up individual workstations with a selection of seasonal blooms, greenery, vessels, and design tools; a brief guided instruction; and the freedom to create a personal arrangement to take home. What makes this format exceptional is how completely it solves the entertainment question: two hours of guided arranging, punctuated by food and champagne, feels like a spa day crossed with an art class. The social dynamics are wonderful — guests who do not know each other have an immediate shared activity, and the creative process produces laughter and conversation naturally. The room itself becomes the décor: individual workstations full of blooms, scattered petals, and the ambient visual richness of fifty different flower varieties creates a setting that no amount of purchased décor can replicate. Pricing is the primary consideration: a professionally guided floral workshop costs $40 to $75 per guest depending on the florist and the flower variety selection. For 25 guests, that is a workshop line item of $1,000 to $1,875 before food, venue, or any other cost. It is unambiguously the highest per-head activity cost on this list — and consistently described by guests as one of the most memorable events they have attended.
Strengths
- Completely resolves the entertainment and favor questions simultaneously — guests make their take-home
- The room's visual richness during the workshop is unlike any décor-purchased alternative
- Produces the strongest guest engagement and post-event conversation of any shower format
Weaknesses
- Highest per-head cost of any theme on this list; requires a professional florist partner with workshop experience
- Best for
- The most experiential shower of 2026 — guests leave with something they made themselves
- Pricing
- $1,200–$3,000+ for 20–25 guests; workshop fee is the dominant line item
Frequently asked
How far in advance should hosts choose and begin planning a bridal shower theme?
The ideal window to commit to a theme is eight to ten weeks before the shower. This provides enough lead time to design and mail invitations (or send digital invitations via Paperless Post or Zola) four to six weeks in advance, source any specialty décor or rentals, secure a florist for custom arrangements, and confirm dietary restrictions from RSVP responses. Themes that require a professional partner — a floral atelier workshop, a specialty venue like a hotel tea room — may require ten to twelve weeks of lead time to secure availability, particularly for popular spring and summer weekend dates. The theme conversation should happen before the venue is booked, not after, since the venue will significantly shape which themes are achievable.
How many guests is the ideal size for a bridal shower?
The typical American bridal shower hosts 20 to 30 guests, with an average of approximately 25. This range reflects the practical logistics of most shower formats: a seated brunch or luncheon for this count fits in a restaurant private room, a generous backyard, or a well-appointed home dining room. Smaller intimate showers of 8 to 15 guests work particularly well for more experiential formats like the floral atelier workshop or a formal afternoon tea, where the intimacy is part of the experience. Larger showers of 35 to 50 guests typically work best with a buffet or stations format in a proper event space. The most important constraint on guest count: every shower guest must also be invited to the wedding. This rule is non-negotiable etiquette — inviting someone to the shower who is not invited to the wedding is considered a significant breach.
What is the right budget for a bridal shower in 2026?
The national average for a bridal shower is $500 to $1,500 for 20 to 30 guests, with meaningful regional variation: major metro areas (New York, Los Angeles, San Francisco) run 30 to 50 percent above this range, while Midwest and Southern markets often come in 20 to 30 percent below it. The most common per-person range is $25 to $75, with elevated experiences (hotel venues, floral atelier workshops, formal luncheons) running $75 to $150 per person and above. When multiple bridesmaids are co-hosting, establishing a firm total budget ceiling before any decisions are made — not after — is the single most important financial planning step. Agree on per-person costs and total cap in the first planning conversation, before anyone has fallen in love with a venue or theme.
What are the most popular bridal shower games for 2026?
Two to four games are appropriate for a standard three-hour shower. The games generating the most enthusiasm in 2026 combine the classic (Bridal Bingo, the ring game) with more personal formats that reflect the couple's relationship. Crowd favorites: a "Would She Rather?" printable using options specific to the bride; "How Well Do You Know the Bride?" trivia compiled from details the host gathers in advance; and advice cards, where guests write a piece of marital wisdom for the bride to keep. For showers with mixed-age groups, the ring game — everyone wears a ring and loses it to whoever catches them saying "bride" — works passively throughout the event and requires no coordination. For brides whose shower has a strong contingent of guests who do not know each other well, a simple icebreaker — each guest shares one word that describes the bride — warms the room beautifully within minutes.
Can a bridal shower be co-ed in 2026, and does the theme change?
Co-ed "wedding showers" are fully established and growing in popularity, particularly for couples whose social circles do not divide neatly along gender lines, for second marriages, and for grooms with close female friends who would naturally be included. For a co-ed format, a few theme adjustments make the event more universally welcoming: move the start time from morning to early afternoon or evening, choose a menu with broader appeal (a proper catering spread rather than a brunch-specific menu), and select activities that do not center exclusively on feminine imagery. The Italian summer, farmer's market, disco and diamonds, and brunch and bubbly themes all translate well to mixed-gender groups with minimal modification. The etiquette rules remain the same regardless of format: every shower guest must be invited to the wedding, gifts are traditional but not obligatory if the invitation specifies otherwise, and thank-you notes are the couple's responsibility within two weeks.